Yep! We’re all wonderful when things are going great. And we’re frequently of the opinion that we’re wonderful in most situations. But when things go sideways? We need skills, concepts and some practice time to navigate our way through or out of hte mess we’re in.
The biggest advantage to working with horses is TRUST. Their response is an honest agenda whereas when we think about it people, all of us, have an agenda. We may feel we’re helping and react with the best of intentions, but how we react is related to our personal agenda and how we feel about ourselves and the person we’re dealing with. Let’s say that you have a child dealing with bullying. The horse work we do here is a fabulous option for that. Anyway, while I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with usual therapy/therapists, for example we’re going to use an exercise a normal therapist might do and have the child role play to learn how to stand up to a bully. The therapist is going to play the bully. Where something like this falls short in my opinion is that the child knows that therapist is NEVER going to beat them up. There is a fear that arises in the actual occurrence that needs to be worked through. And it is possible to bring up those emotions with the horses.
A huge advantage is experience in the moment. You can learn to analyze, adjust and adapt. No moment is ever going to be the same. There is no rote learning.
Timing skills – mostly we’re slow and late. Working with the horses helps you learn how to think faster, better and get better results. Without this work folks simply think they’re fine the way they are. And maybe they are, but if improvement is what you’re after, this is the work for you.
Like with the bullying example, a fear or uncertainty factor that no people coach can help you through by “pretending” to be a difficult client.